#AbHarWishHogiPoori : A Wish To See Them Everyday

Jul 6
NabanitaDhar

Wishes! What is life but a string of wishes? The wish to live, to love and be happy. The wish to be with the ones you love. Or, simply the wish to have every wish of yours fulfilled. Yes, life is but a thread of carefully seamed wishes. Think about it, everything you do is in one way or the other bound to a wish. Wonderful and sublime, isn’t it?
Tell me, growing up what is that one thing that is generally taken for granted? The presence of your family, isn’t it? You know and believe that they will always be by your side. Yes, you never think of a time or a phase in life when they are not going to be with you. But as you grow up, you realize that while their support and love is omnipresent it may not always be so physically.
Circle of life, call it what you may, but it does take you away from your family at some point in time or the other. It could be due to higher studies or even career. Yes, it eventually does. The same would have happened to you and, yes, to me too.
It has been over a decade since I left home. First due to higher studies, then job and later marriage. Today, living everyday with my parents seems like a dream. It appears to have been in another life altogether. Add to that the distance between Bangalore and Guwahati, where my parents now live, you’ll realize what I mean. Months go by before I even get to see them in the flesh. It’s a depressing feeling if you think about it deeply. There are days when the urge to see them is so strong that all I want is to fly out leaving everything behind. But that’s easier said than done, isn’t it?
The cruel irony of life is when you leave the nest for doing better in life, you fail to realize how much you are actually giving up. My parents always made sure to be with me when I needed them and today when they probably need me the most I’m so far away. And they don’t even complain. They want to see me everyday but stop short of saying as much. Yes, they want me to do well even at the cost of not being able to be with them. Well, that’s what parents are like, isn’t it? But I know what they wish for because that’s what I wish for too. I want to be with them or at least be able to see them.
Consciously or subconsciously, it’s something my soul yearns for day in and day out. It’s a wish really and it pokes at me day and night. Strange thing is though, I don’t even realize that I’m thinking about it at most times. I wish to not have to make do with only hearing their voices. Yes, that’s what I wish for with every living second of my life, not just once in a blue moon. Not too much to ask, isn’t it?
And I know just how my wish can be fulfilled. I’ll gift them an iPad Air from Flipkart. Give it so that I can video chat without causing any inconvenience to them in the process. Otherwise, they find it very cumbersome taking out that bulky old laptop. Which is why I too don’t insist much on them doing so. But an iPad Air would be light and easy to carry around the house, wouldn’t it?
Mom could talk to me while working in the kitchen and dad while reading his daily dose of newspapers. What do you say? It’s a great idea, isn’t it? I could learn how to cook my favorite dishes while being on video call with my mom. Wouldn’t that be wonderful? I could even see dad pulling mom’s legs and join in the fun. It would be just like old times. I could be in the same room as them, so what if with the help of a device? I could give mom company when dad is out, traveling for work. She doesn’t have to be alone anymore when dad is not in town. They don’t have to be alone anymore.
I’ll get to spend birthdays and anniversaries with them. I’ll get to see and know if they are well and healthy. Staying away from parents sometimes you miss out on clear signs of health issues. I don’t want that to happen. If I see them everyday, I’ll actually know if they are doing well. And yes, my family can be together, even if virtually.
Yes, since #AbHarWishHogiPoori, mine will also get fulfilled. I’ll be able to see my mom and dad everyday instead of a day when they actually turn on the laptop or on holidays when I’m there. Yes, I’ll get to see my parents anytime I want to. Isn’t it a wish that ought to be fulfilled? Amen to that I say!
We at the blog-o-sphere are building a wishing chain as well along very similar lines as seen in the video. What is it you ask? Well, it’s actually an attempt at the first ever blogger wish chain in India. And I’m glad to be part of it. What we are trying to do is create a chain of wishes. Interesting, isn’t it?
Now, the blogger just before me in the chain is actually a veteran in the field of blogging, Vidya Sury who writes at vidyasury.com. She has selected the book called Kathak-The Tradition to fulfill one of her wishes. You can read about what that is here.

The trained Kathak dancer in me actually is overjoyed by her choice. It reminds me of a time when mom would take me to dance classes. She loved it as much as I did. Even my dad made sure to be present for all my dance performances. The mention of this book brings back memories of a time when I could be with both my parents every day. Hence, is it really surprising what I wish for?

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18 thoughts on “#AbHarWishHogiPoori : A Wish To See Them Everyday”

  1. Modern technology makes it so much easier to connect with loved ones. So thankful for things like video chats!

  2. Oh yes technology has brought us closer. In fact face timing with my sister and parents is way better than speaking with them on the phone because I get to hear all what's going on in the background – sounds which were so much a part of my childhood. And we speak even as they are going about their chores. That makes a huge difference.

  3. I loved the video and your wish as well. How lovely it would be to be connected with your parents all the time even when so far away.

  4. You know what…this has inspired me. I did get my mom a laptop and a mobile but no great options for video chatting as such (pretty average net at home). Have to rectify that

  5. I can't see the video at this time; however, I think it's a sweet wish you have Naba and certainly hope it is fulfilled1 And what would we do without technology, though I can't seem to keep up! ipad Air? Never heard of it before?! 😉 <3

  6. Technology today has bridged all distances and we can reach out to our loved ones at the press of a button. May your wishes come true soon, Nabanita!

  16. Ah! I have a similar story like yours. I left home when I was 17 and since then I have been on my own. Living with parents now seems like a dream and it feels sad but I haven't been home in 3 years now. I met my parents each year but the pain of not being able to visit always haunts me. It's not as far as yours but it's far east of UP which is distant. Add to it leaves from work and the travel expenses. two flights and a can journey excluding the volvo ride in Bangalore. But yes, ipad air is a great wish! something that can get us all closer.

  17. Modern technology is great to keep in touch, isn't it? Having said that, I still only skype my parents once a month…I think after 10 years of being away from home, I'm used to speaking to them only once or twice a month but am able to message on a weekly basis.

  18. That's a really lovely ad and you guys are doing a fantastic initiative by building a bloggers wish chain :).

    Technology is a great way to bridge the distances between our loved ones. And am sure iPad Air is a great wish :D.

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