Sometimes you get so engrossed in this journey of life that you end up forgetting there’s more to it than these mundane everyday battles. Circumstances and people change you constantly, often making it extremely difficult to look at life positively. The way you see the world is something that changes day after day, every day.
My outlook towards life when I was a 16 year old was one devoid of any bitterness. With age and experience, it changed. For good or for bad, well, that’s debatable perhaps or maybe not. Today though the way I view things are very different from when I was a teenager or even from two years ago because I have grown, evolved to be more cautious.
There are several things that have changed me as a person, several experiences rather. Of all, being hurt in friendship is one which has made me more, well, skeptical. I have this shell built around me now and I don’t allow myself to be swayed by friendships anymore. Acquaintances, yes, I have many. But everyone gets just one strike and once that’s over, I know how to keep the distance. I have not allowed myself to become emotionally attached to any ‘so called friend’ for many years now. I know it’s not healthy but some scars take time to heal or at times never really heal at all. Mine have made me see the bad in people first and block them from my world based on that. There was a time however when I only saw the good, ignored the bad but not anymore. I don’t like doing it but it has become my natural response somehow.
S keeps telling me I shouldn’t look at the world with so much distrust. Not everyone is out there to hurt me. Maybe he is right. Actually, I know he is right. So, perhaps the least I can do for him and mostly for my sanity is not be so bitter anymore. Just because a bunch of people ended up hurting me doesn’t mean others would do the same? Perhaps I can look at the world without misgivings starting today? I can still be careful, but not bitter anymore. Well, at least I can try to do that.
I remember reading somewhere what we send out to the universe comes back to us. We get back what we give, sometimes doubled. I know I want to make the effort to stop looking at everyone suspiciously. So, that is what I’ll do. I’ll stop being skeptical.
Forgive and forget is something that has been very hard for me to do. I have tried but it has never really worked for me. So, maybe, just maybe, I can forget the hurt for a change? If nothing else, I wouldn’t feel betrayed every time I look back.
I miss the person I was before being hurt by the harsh realities of life. Naïve perhaps, but there was a time when I never believed in disliking or hating people, even my worst enemies. But today, things are so very different. Hate is a word that I associate with people quite easily nowadays. And it’s not something that I like doing or do consciously. It just happens. Deep down I know that girl is still there somewhere and I wish to bring her back to the fore. This resentment is not worth it. So, perhaps finding peace within would help me change the way I look at people, this world, even help me enhance my world.
I wish to bring positivity in the way I see the world, don’t you? See the world with rose tinted glasses even! I’m tired of being hostile as if everyone is out there to get me. I wish to look at the glass as half full rather than half empty. And maybe, just maybe, in the process do something worthwhile like help someone to see this beautiful world too?
This is such a moving video. I have pledged to donate my eyes and other body parts too.
talking about distrust…it was not like this earlier. Dont when all our trust has changed to cynicism and skepticism. But it should change certainly…
A very candid post.Enjoyable read!
The problem with bitterness is it makes us tired. Nobody suffers but only the bearer of all that resentment. Forgiveness might seem difficult, almost impossible but the peace it brings within is priceless, it is out of the world. Best wishes for you to find the same old girl you were once 🙂
Sometimes forgiveness is a gift that you just can't give to someone. People in general have changed in the last decade. There wasn't so much shrewdness back in the 90s or even in the early 2000s. It's okay to be cynical in today's times. I am. I became that way the heard way today, but I think I'm wiser now. And better, yes. That old "girl" is best lost forever. She probably won't fit in today's world anyway.
Forgiveness is so important more so for yourself than for the other one. It is not an easy choice though.
Rachna writes what I would have written about forgiveness. So important as we only hurt ourselves and the other person usually is unaware of our anger and bitterness. I understand Naba as I have been there and had this resentment for quite some time, a number of years due to a major betrayal by so-called friends. However, I realize it is time for me to let it go, let them go, and move on so I can heal my heart, remove the wall around me…not always easy, but necessary for our growth AND health! <3 And what a powerful video! Ironic in that bitterness may blind us to opportunities and love as we are build a wall or shell around us - I know I did! Take care dear Naba and take your time, but do do it! You will be thankful you did. 🙂 <3
I appreciate such a candid introspective post. I hope you will find a way, whenever you are ready, to see the world differently and more positively. But it is really a process and we can't rush it just because it is the 'right' thing to do. Wishing you peace and contentment as you go through life.
I think for your own personal well being a person needs to forgive to a point. While I can choose not to think about it, I never really truly forget. Usually I never really allow anyone to get that close to me in the first place. I have always kind of been that way. You have to find what works for you.
I think for your own personal well being a person needs to forgive to a point. While I can choose not to think about it, I never really truly forget. Usually I never really allow anyone to get that close to me in the first place. I have always kind of been that way. You have to find what works for you.
That was a touching video! And a beautiful honest post.
Coming over to people and forgiving – I have trained myself to forgive, forget and move on. Sometimes, it takes a lot of time but sometimes it is easy. As you try, I wish you peace within..
Beautifully penned ! Bitter feelings will take us no where n also they r a burden 2 carry around in our hearts..forgiveness jus helps lighten our heart !
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What a well made video. Very effective.
I have pledged, and am going to share this link with people who I know will take the step.
Even I miss being the person I was before life bestowed some of its harsh realities but maybe that's how life teaches us and makes us wiser.
Eye donation is an extremely noble cause. Kudos to you for writing this post.
Touching with a powerful message! A great reminder for us to identify what is the true purpose of our life. Make a difference to some one without expecting any return.
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We all have bitter experiences but it's not always that people are looking to hurt us and trouble us. The fact that you have decided to look at the world in a more positive way and start afresh is a really good step.
Moreover, I feel that being bitter about something or someone all the time starts to trouble us as well as we tend to lose our sanity over a period of time.
The video brings forth a truly powerful message.