#MicroblogMondays : On Last Name & Books Read

Oct 21
NabanitaDhar
Today at Stirrup Queens we are discussing Last Names. You know whether one should take the husband’s surname after marriage or not? And if yes, is that a good or a bad thing really? And, hold your breath, all this has got to do with Amal Alamuddin. Why you ask? Well read here for more information I say.
If you ask me about this entire business of last name change post marriage, I’ll say it’s a personal choice. And I can’t stress the point enough that it SHOULD indeed be a personal choice. I’m married and I have not taken my husband’s last name. I don’t find it necessary or important. I think this is not something that must be given so much importance. I’m still the same person I was, older and slightly wiser maybe, but essentially the same. So why change my last name? But this is how I feel. My views.

My mother however had taken my father’s last name. But that didn’t make her come after me yelling because I didn’t follow her path! It was her choice and she knew what I decided was my own. And I think that’s how it should be for all.

I think the society finds some kind of sadistic pleasure in jibing every choice a woman makes. So whether you take your husband’s last name or not, it will still mock and question you. So as far as possible smile at their naivety because, if nothing else, it will at-least irritate them. And personally I cannot think of a better way to annoy such judgmental folks.

Now for some other news. Did you know that I finished reading two great books last week? ‘Life or Death‘ by Michael Robotham and ‘The Silkworm‘ by Robert Galbraith last week. Yay for me! Honestly I couldn’t have spent my week in a more better way. I feel so proud as if it was some sort of a competition!

And now I’be begun ‘The Apple Tree Yard‘ by Louise Doughty. Let’s see how this one goes. Fingers crossed!

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I’m taking part in #MicroblogMondays hosted by the Stirrup Queens. If you want to know what it’s all about hop over thereand you’ll get to know the details.

26 thoughts on “#MicroblogMondays : On Last Name & Books Read”

  1. Yes, this whole last name business is and should be a personal choice. I can't even believe that there are people who are discussing this sort of thing 🙂 I hope they are not trying to come up with "one right solution" 😉 Good luck with your reading this week!

  2. I agree on the personal choice bit too. The society has just got used to making big issues out things that are subjective and personal.

  4. You are too right, Naba. Name changes are personal. Whether you choose your husband's name or not, it is up to you. And forget all the judgemental folks who have nothing better to do than criticise others….the same eventually happens to them.

  5. I didn't take my husband's surname either. People do raise a slight eyebrow, but knowing me they kind of expected it I guess. 😛 I would say don't care. It's a personal choice. Funnily my parents had never even asked what my surname is now … 😛

  6. Yes, changing or keeping last name after marriage should be purely personal choice. No one has forced me to change it. Actually I haven't seen anyone within my friends or family who has changed their last name with husband's. Don't know why!! 🙂
    Great going on your reading, Naba! 🙂

  7. I took my husband's last name because it was tradition to do so, and because I wanted too. I have known a few people that haven't, one because they had educational degrees in their own name and the other because she never really loved the guy in the first place. They ended up divorced, so in hindsight it probably was a good thing. A lot less paperwork!

  8. Oh! I want to read the Galbraith/JK Rowling books. Silkworm was good?

    I'm sort of stunned that anyone feels the need to comment on anyone else's choice of names. Talk about something that has NO bearing on anyone other than the people in the family.

  10. I dont know why people make a big deal about it. It's a personal choice and people have all the right to change their name or let it be.

  20. True Kathy…I think we should only do it if we want to and not because anyone else asks us to..The society finds it hilarious to make fun of a woman's choice eitherways sadly

  21. Yes Silkworm was really good 🙂 And yes I agree people don't realize when they over step the boundaries…

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