It’s like a lucky draw you know. Every time the anticipation is that it would be removed but the doctor announces regretfully that the draw wasn’t in our favor. But it’s alright. Patience is a virtue I’ve been told. How much of it I possess is a different question altogether.
This time around my sister has taken up the role of handling mom’s care and medicines. My job is just to manage the kitchen at night and on holidays, the rest she takes care of. And she’s so good at it. My small munchkin seems to have grown up. I guess that’s what being a family is all about. One steps in for the other. Touch-wood!
But don’t be upset. It’s not a sad post.
You know in all this we haven’t forgotten to smile. That’s a good thing right? We do get frustrated. Humans after all. But then we get back to giggling and pulling each other’s legs. So in trying to lighten up the mood at home we spent the last two evenings playing cards. It’s fun seeing mom and dad engaged in it. I know they miss home and their friends. I understand. But things will be back to normal soon. It’s only a matter of time and healing.
By the way did I tell you I’m mom’s lucky charm during card games? She always wins when I sit next to her. Oh such fun to see the mischievous smile on her face then. I also plan to get carom-board at home so that we could all spend some more time playing. And laughing most importantly.
Moving on.
You know life is like this very strict teacher who always comes up with a new lesson even if you aren’t ready for it. It’s true. It is like this relentless trainer who doesn’t believe in giving you breathers. And also especially concentrates on those students who are least interested in a lesson. There are times you wish to run away just so you could catch a break. But where could you hide for life not to be able to get to you? Nowhere right?
So today I’ve decided to share with you some advice. Or, observations at best. These are realizations that came to me at times when nothing seemed right. And if you have been reading me recently then you would know how fresh these derivations could be. So just for you these are my two cents’ worth on life as I understand it, at least at this juncture. I’m sure it’ll change but then that’s a discussion for some other time.
Here I go!
No matter how ridiculous it seems life never gives you more that what you can handle. Your tolerance threshold can be judged by the problems you are dealt with. It’s true. Trust me!
Cherish every peaceful moment in life because you never know when the lull breaks giving way to an avalanche of difficulties. You have got to put this in every sticky note possible, even the mental ones. Don’t let even a moment of life pass by without you savoring the good in it.
Take short breaks whenever possible. Don’t put off holidays or the things you want to do for the future. You know it might just take a long time to actually show up at the door.
It’s okay to be frustrated and angry. It’s even alright to question your beliefs from time to time. What I want to say is it’s okay to break down and let go. But don’t forget to rise up again like a phoenix. Makes sense, doesn’t it?
You can’t take care of everyone and everything all at the same time. So if possible delegate your responsibilities or even share with your partners. Could be your siblings, spouse or friend even. But do it. Let go. Don’t overburden yourself. It’s okay to want to do everything for everyone but it’s not humanly possible all the time. Accept that!
So there.These were some of the things that I’ve realized in very recent times. These helped me make more sense of everything happening around me. So who knows maybe it could help you too at some point?
Tell me though what is your take on life? Your mantras of getting through life perhaps. In simple terms of-course! Go on, tell me. I can’t wait to learn more.
And yes don’t forget to have a great weekend!
Take care!
Keep it up Naba!!!
Power to you Naba! You know a fun fact? I was also my mother's lucky charm 😀 provided I sit on my dad's side 😀
Richa
True, life is a strict teacher but then she also remembers to reward the deserving. It is times like the one you started off with, that test our patience, our inner strength and also brings the family together. Nice post Nabanita.
You have put up a great post Naba! It feels so personal and I pray your family grow closer on each passing day. 🙂
I completely agree, Naba. You know I think for all the delusions that we have of having things under our control, they are not. Sometimes nature just throws these challenges our way and all we can do is try to somehow swim through it all and emerge triumphant. Like you said enjoy the good times and try to manage the bad to the best of your ability. Much love to you and your family.
Some great points shared in your post, I do most of the things mentioned. I always look for the bright spot on any given day, count my blessings and move on in life. There is no time for regrets or negativity. Lovely post. Take care and may all be well with your world soon.
This is such a beautiful post Naba. So wise! Lots of love and light your way dear. I am sure all will be well soon!
Your two cents' worth is lot more worth than you think 🙂 Thanks for writing this post, Naba. During the last many years I have been in similar situations many times with parents' ill-health and serious conditions…it can be exhausting but as you say these are also the times we grow through our experiences. Keep at it, wishing you and your parents all the very best. And yes isn't it great to see our younger siblings grow up 🙂
A beautiful inspiring post Naba. May all things get better soon.
Parul
What a moving and beautiful post. Hope all is better now, and I can totally relate to your words about cherishing the moments and minutes – every single one of them.. Thanks for inspiring words that moved me today, Naba – sending you warm thoughts:-)
Mom's lucky charm…how cute is that. I suddenly feel warm. 😀
This post brought memories back. I cant wait to visit home this October.
Read you after really long time and loved the post too. More so, for the simple and accessible blog template. Blessings for your mom and her tough daughters 🙂
Nabanita – this is a strong and inspiring post – I pray that Ma recovers fully soon – my prayers! Take care 🙂
Some of the family moments narrated, brings back old memories of my family where we've shared light hearted moments. It's honestly a heavenly feeling to bond with family. I loved your mantras of life and some of it are so true.