Wouldn’t it be wonderful thus if you could just pick the most beautiful moment of you life and , in some way, continue living in that phase. Wishful, I know, and certainly very stagnating. But at times the heart just wishes for it.
Today, for some strange reason, change seems more a foe than a friend. It seems like just yesterday I was this teenager swooning over Justin Timberlake and here I am now feeling like this reluctant female Hercules forced to bear earth’s weight. Sometimes reality does strike you abruptly, catching you unawares, perhaps that’s the reason for my peculiar outburst today.
There was a time when my life was in Shillong. And then the lure of independence and doing something took me to a new city and then to another. Home, well, became a term that I attributed to more than one place at one point in time and still do. I’m befuddled at the rate at which everything changed and still continues to change. Well, a learned woman or man once said that change is the only constant, apparently it’s true.
You must be wondering why I’m so hung up on change all of a sudden. Well, honestly I don’t know the answer to that. When I look back I realize how very different my life is compared to how it was, different good of-course, but so very different. There’s this overflow of emotions recalling the old times, especially today, that I just don’t want life to change anymore. I just want to hold on to what I have and what I am. It’s a phase I know but life does throw such curve balls making you wish to avoid the unknown. One moment you believe change is not bad and at the very next you feel this staunch aversion to it.
Maybe my sudden apathy to change has got to do with the ridiculous amount of pressure at work. An important, important task had to be done by me last week for the very first time after my promotion. I couldn’t do it wrong, there was no option to fail. Why? Because then they would say it was a wrong decision to promote me over my male counterpart and I couldn’t take that. No, sir. Therefore you can understand why I spent the past few days hyperventilating almost. And with the stress levels high, I started thinking about how I got from being fairly carefree to a woman with so many things to take care of. The answer, well, boiled down to change. And the rest, well, is self explanatory now, isn’t it?
Well, I guess in life things will keep changing and the key is to not fret!
You tell me do you like change, all of it? Do you go through phases where you just wish to stay where you are and maybe not change anything about your life? Do you?
I know what you mean, Nabanita! Change takes us away from our comfort zone and that unsettles us. Give your new circumstances some time and soon the change will be in your comfort zone too. Stay positive. It will work out for the best and congratulations for your promotion! 🙂
Naba, breathe, girl. Yes work stress, it is awful. I can't tell you how much I yearn for those school or college days. Yes, the pressure of studies was there but life was carefree. Parents took care of every single need. Now we have to shoulder every responsibility. Sometimes I don't want to either. At other times I cherish it. This too shall pass. At least S is there with you. Take care.
Well, to tell you something once you have a baby.. Life becomes a rollercoaster ride.. You have no time to think of any change and whether it is good or bad.. You just go with the flow.. Do I complain about it? I get tired yes, but I love it 🙂
I could totally relate to the write up. Sometimes change in my life happens so fast that I can't cope with it and sometimes I feel it gets stuck and I crave for a change. Ya definitely there are moments that I never want to change but they do.
There are many ways in which change happens . But people aren't ready to accept it. That's one of the things happening in the society today
Completely agree to your views.
I have so many such moments where I wished that they lasted for ever.
But then journey of life is such full of ups and downs. Good and some not so good changes keeps happening and they help us grow.
lovely Nabanita… thought provoking… can totally relate with it… congratulations for the promotion and good luck in all walks of life… 🙂
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I like change…but if it brings bad events then like u I WD like d good ones stay on!
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I always stress about change…then I handle it. Life is constantly changing. Nothing ever says the same for long.
Thanks Shilpa…. I guess I have just let the stress get to me this time, like many other times of-course 😉
Thanks Rachna….trying to…I think the stress has gone to my head this time… It's true atleast S is there to pacify me ! 🙂
Oh well that's a big , big change but I guess we learn to handle that as well and even love that as you said 🙂
But change is good. Or it has generally been in my case, I suppose 🙂
You'll do just fine. I'm sure
I agree… Sometimes it just hits us on the face and that rattles us…But , yes, change is very much necessary and we must try and be receptive to it
Oh yes and growing is so necessary no?
Thanks Archana 🙂
I thought I liked change and maybe I still do but at the present moment I hate being at the centre of it..
I can relate to this feeling. There are times when one craves for change and there are others when we just wish we could set back the clock and live life long past.But then this is life.
true Kathy eventually we all have to deal with it…
Oh well I hope so Sid!
True Geeta , this is life after all!
Whatever change is confronting you right now, I believe you can handle it with strength and grace.
Stopping by from Pam's Unconventional Alliance, best of luck on the Challenge!
I am person who detests even if a small routine is changed in my life. But I can tell from experience that more you fight against change the more you get aggravated. Instead just accept that change as an inevitable part of life. Just flow with the tide. I hope things ease up soon at work. Till then keep smiling 🙂
Naba, I get you totally. Today, I was in a soup work-wise and was wondering if my long weekend is gonna be ruined with all the work that had to be done. But fortunately, I completed it and now I feel better. So the reactions to change also changes. All you need is to take a deep breath and go through it. You will be fine on the other side 🙂
How beautifully you have written it. Well drafted.
Yes,everyone feels at one point in time that he gets to live that moment – the best in his life – forever. It really seems like a fairy tale. 🙂
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By the time we are ready to embrace the new change and get used to a new rhythm, more changes seem ready to come, and the process starts again. That's life I suppose 🙂 Nice, reflective post, Naba. Wishing you peace and calm as you go through this change….
Lovely post Naba thank you! Are you doing the A-Z? have looked for A and B posts?
I generally resist change because it pushes me out of my comfort zone. But once I realise it is inevitable I completely take to it – some kind of a survival instinct I guess. You'll be super fine too.
Change is inevitable for any individual's life. When we face change, we are forced to change the way we do our daily activities, think and express ourselves. Change makes us move to newer areas which maybe not comfortable for us and that fear of the unknown is what unsettles us. But then, the ability to adapt to change is what separates the best from the good ones.
As they say, change is the only constant. By the time we embrace a particular change, we see many more changes coming our way.