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The other day the husband and I were watching the movie, Churchill. In that towards the very end, there is a scene where Churchill and his wife have a heart to heart conversation. It was a conversation which both my husband and I liked best about the movie.

What was the conversation you ask?

Well, I don’t exactly recall what was said though I do remember thinking that that’s the kind of comfort and space a good marriage, a strong relationship should have. I remember telling my husband that maybe we too had become this 80-year-old couple! Well, after over a decade together it does feel that way.

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But, on a serious note, that scene reminded me of a conversation I was having with a couple of my workmates about what constitutes a strong relationship, a good marriage. I remember telling them that comfort is very crucial in any longlasting relationship. In fact, I would go so far as to say that comfort in each other’s company is one of the basic tenets of a successful relationship and marriage. This actually translates into the freedom to be yourselves while being a couple, while being together. Honestly, it is something I truly savour. And it is something, I believe, we all should savour.

Comfort in each other’s company is one of the basic tenets of a successful relationship and marriage.

So, today, I’m going to share with you some golden nuggets of relationships which I have witnessed in couples who have been together for a long time. These are lessons I try to imbibe in my life as well because let’s be honest here, I’m no expert in relationships either. Also, some are realizations I have had over a period of time.

Some Relationship Advice On Valentine’s Day

A marriage where you try too hard to please your partner can never be a happy one because you will eventually get tired of being the only one making an effort.

It’s true love when even a simple hug at the end of a tiring day gives you the assurance that you have each other.

A good marriage gives space to both individuals to grow independently while being together.

You can’t have a strong relationship without having fights with each other. Of course, there needs to be that underlying feeling of love even when you are pissed off with the other.

A strong relationship is a perfect relationship. But a perfect relationship is not always a strong relationship.

Distance is nothing when it comes to true love.

Marriage needs both individuals to be equal. Neither should be placed on a pedestal.

The families of both the husband and wife are equally important and unimportant in a good marriage.

Don’t have a child to strengthen your marriage. Have a child because you want to because a marriage which needs a child to survive seldom does.

A good wedding is never a guarantee of a great marriage. So, choose carefully.

And the last one….You know your relationship is in a good place when you can laugh about being too tired to celebrate Valentine’s Day!

Tell me, what else should I add to this list?

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