Relationships. Aren’t you just dwarfed by the enormity of these, some so close while some distant yet most of them precious? I know I am. In this voyage we call life these bonds are isles to which our emotions remain anchored. At times storms damage these leading to directionless drifts. Still what they give our lives is stability that we often have no idea we seek.
Even though we could live happily alone the lack of relationships makes us lonely which I hear isn’t something to look forward to. For me it is my inner circle that makes for my steady sailing through life’s rough seas. You know those few people without whom chances of being shipwrecked far outweigh any other odds? Of-course, the flip side to that is if anything happens to anyone in that circle it becomes tough staying afloat.
So today on this Saturday night I thought why not share with you a thing or two about relationships? Words of wisdom if you could call it so. Alright, I’m not really sure if these are words of wisdom but let’s just call it advice under the influence extreme boredom and two huge glasses full of coke?
Let’s just give it a try. Shall we begin then?
Alright. Here goes.
Sometimes words fail to convey what we really want to say. You know you might end up using every possible word in your dictionary but all of that turns out futile. It’s not the end of the world though. We just need to remember that at times it’s up to the person in front hearing all those words to actually listen to what you couldn’t really convey.
Like they say you need to set the one you love free and if they come back it was meant to be. Something similar holds true for safe and secure relationships too. You can’t tie down a person to be with you always. Well, alright not always but you get the picture. No amount of coaxing will make the person do that for you. At-least not voluntarily. So it’s best to let the person be. Set them free so to say.
Never go to sleep angry. You must have heard about that I hope? You know it’s true. Now I know it’s not always possible but attempts need to be made. Someone in the relationship needs to take that step. Of-course every fight won’t end just when you want it to but then all that matters is that you tried to resolve whatever was tugging at your hearts.
Well, I think that’s enough for today. Too much gyan is not good for health you know. But yes let me know what you think. Also let me in on any secret mantras you might have about relationships.
Time to watch Mary Kom now. See you tomorrow.
Definitely lots of wisdom here! Thank you. 🙂
I think love is more about how you make them feel. It doesn't need loud declarations, flowers, expensive presents. All it needs is sincere gestures and words that you actually mean 🙂
Well said Naba. I agree with you completely. 🙂
Very thought provoking post, Naba.
Some pearls of wisdom here. I agree on most points stated here.
A lot of insight into relationships. yes we all live for our relationships and they anchor us and make us secure and like you said we also need to give it space too.fully agree with your views. How was Mary Kom?
Exactly…even I feel the same when it comes to securing the relationships…lovely gyan…
sigh.. for better or worse, I fall in the first 'highlighted' quote and I totally agree – living alone isn't impossible but you do yearn for that which a relationship brings as well.
I see married people complain about how they miss the bachelor days and the only thing that comes to mind is that grass can sometimes be greener on the other side.
Yes, even within a relationship, space is a must. Demanding that every moment be spent with one's self can lead to some very realistic feelings of resentment…
We need people, Naba. That is an undisputed fact. But we should not become dependent on them. Weird paradox, I know 🙂 You have said it well 🙂
Relationships are important. To know ourselves we need people around us. The problem begins when we get possessive. Ultimately leaving no breathing space even…
Relationships are important. To know ourselves we need people around us. The problem begins when we get possessive. Ultimately leaving no breathing space even…
Liked reading this "Gyan" full of post. Agree with your views 🙂
Loved the way you portrayed the point about how individuals in relationships need to understand the unspoken words of the others :). Relationships are important for a person to be happy but are also a reason for his or her sadness. So they affect us in many ways.
Never go to sleep angry…one thing I follow so religiously Great post…I am loving this new layout of your blog
I think often in a relationship we try to make the other person do what we like. I think space is one of the things that breathes life in a relationship. Give each other enough space to not feel claustrophobic. At the same time, nurture mutual interests and do fun things together. I love being in a relationship. I love having my kids. I am a social person and my family is my oxygen.
A lot of truths here, never sleep over a fight is one of personal favorites too.
A lovely one Naba :), esp the last quote is fantastic, so many times it is up to the person at the receiving and what we say is also so dependent on them!