Love may be blind but you aren’t !

Aug 12
NabanitaDhar
My post for www.newsyaps.com

In Shakespeare’s Mid-Summer Night’s Dream we learnt ‘Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind, and therefore is winged Cupid painted blind.’ We have read more often than not that Love is blind. If you love someone it is on most occasions tough to see the obvious or make an impartial assessment of the person’s character. It has been witnessed so often that love clouds your judgment and you are not able to see beyond a cloak of all that is glossy and beautiful. 

‘What does she see in him? He is so full of faults. She could do so much better! Oh well I guess Love is truly blind!’ haven’t we all said this at some point of time or the other? But why is it that when one is in love; all that they see and consider are the good qualities of the person and simply choose to ignore those that may at a point in time; in the future;  be the cause of that very love breaking down? Think about it, are you too blinded by love?

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49 thoughts on “Love may be blind but you aren’t !”

  3. If you are using your brain in choosing someone then it is not love..then it is simply 'a choice' or 'a selection' but not love.

    Nobody is perfect in this world.If we always keep looking the bad points of someone(which everyone has and it's a fact)then we will surely never fall in love.
    In love one don't neglect those faults but accept her with those faults.

    Breaking of a love relationship isn't only due to those bad points but,which my understanding says,is due to the lack of trust and understanding…more often.
    Since trust,understanding and love are the basic pillars of every relation(which i think you also believe)it is due to the absence of any of these pillars which causes the downfall of a relation.

    One more thing about love that it just happens..you never found it.

    Love isn't about choosing the best one,Love isn't a choice.Though it is a reality that today nothing like love exist but what exist is so called practical love.."yeh nai to woh hi sahi";"iske baad aur bhi milenge"…which is no more than a deal for me.

    You are very right;one can always do better but what then if that 'better one' don't respect you,don't care for you.

    In my life,i would prefer someone who loves me and understand me not someone who is just Best for others not for me.

    Being a fresh physics graduate,i strongly believe in two things,HIS(God)infinite series of logic which rule the world and the infinity of Love.

    This is my view 🙂

  4. Quite true, Nabanita! Thank Goodness for the judgment that I have… I've never fallen for anyone. lol

    But yes, I have seen many of my friends being so madly in love that they forget there is something called 'faults!'… which later on[obviously] results in a break-up… a bitter one!

    Interesting read! 🙂

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  12. Rajnish the heart is the root of so many problems…its true love doesn't happen by choice but a love that causes suffering can be left by choice…You may never find a perfect partner but its not the reason to suffer for someone who doesn't deserve it 🙂

  21. i nourish a seed…named love~Rumi(a great mystical poet)

    Love grows only if taken care by both,not just by one.If the other person don't love you back be whatever you do then it is better to walk away silently.
    Love is not simple..it is known to people from an ancient time(sources i came across)
    "Yeh ishq nahin asaan itna samajh lijiye,
    aag ka dariya hain aur doob ke jana hai"

    I would like to tell you a real life story;the incindence happen in 80's.

    A boy and a girl fall in love with each other,both belong to Muslim community.The boy had just passed his 12th and the girl is in 10th.As always the case,their parents are against their marriage,due to some caste basis reasons.
    They both decide to leave their homes and start their own lives somewhere,so they left.As soon as their parents realized,they ordered their men and relatives to kill both.For one complete day,those lovers ran through the streets of Chandni Chowk to save their lives until they manage to escape from the place by boarding a train.

    Today the boy owns few Hotels in delhi.The girl has completed her higher education,whatever necessary and is a mother of two.
    They are a happy family not because they have all luxury but because they both are with the person they always wanted to be with.
    They are not leading a compromised life like Aditi and Harsh…remember these two?
    {I am not advocating that one should disobeys his/her parents.}

    You are very good writer keep it up 🙂

  27. Hmm..interesting question…connotation of love differs person to person but one thing is always constant and that is recognizing the individuality of your partner…

  31. Nicely written but I dont agree with some parts … Why blame love when your expectations are not met… There are two individuals in a relationship and both have different expectations and its equally real that both the expectation cannot be met… Somebody has to compromise but yes the compromises has to be from both sides … I had written a short story about Expectations in marriage, I invite you to read … http://theshittanalysis.blogspot.in/2012/08/Expectations-LoveYaArrange.html

  32. I am probably one of the rare ones who disagrees with the post. When we truly love someone or something, we love it for what it is and not what we want it to be. If I love my job, I love it for the work I do, but I accept with it the long hours, the critical feedback and the travel that comes with it. Am I blinded by my love – No! I decide to love a certain person or thing knowing fully well what the complete package is. I cannot take the positives and leave behind what I don't like.
    If we keep looking for faults and shortcomings in relationships, we will keep finding those only. Not to forget that we are not perfect ourselves either. Love is all about finding the best in each other and knowing that it works for you!

  34. its not about expectations; its about not respecting your partner or refusing to see that the other person is so wrong for u..it is about being in love with the idea of love!

    Read your post; its lovely 🙂

    Thanks 🙂

  35. Agree Shilpa…but what I guess I tried to put fort is as I said in above reply too its not about expectations; its about not respecting your partner or refusing to see that the other person is so wrong for u..it is about being in love with the idea of love!

  37. Very well written. But I guess you still continue to discard the negatives of ur beloved even you are not in relationship anymore. Since u have loved him , u cannot hate him.

  38. Yes but I just hate it when people keep suffering for a person who fail to value them in the first place…

    Thanks !

  41. Somehow i was thinking as soon as i read that is Love really blind. Can we start loving anyone? How many people we interact with & had relationship with but can we say its love.
    For me its not the case & am sure for many its not..

    I guess its some part of our mind decide whom to love after carefull selection and once it has decided that it follows!..

    There is a reason to love its not blind. You many not able to find it but its there.

  44. Thanks Ayushi 🙂

    They contact you after reading your blogs and if they like it I guess..Perhaps you could check out their site for any contact id and share your blog…

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